I have to say I find all this information very interesting and very useful in parenting. One statement I read in the book talked about how if you have a child who can't sit still and you put them in a situation where they have to sit still for a long period of time you know they will move about, but yet you expect they won't and get upset when they do. It went on to say different children are just that, different, and shouldn't be expected to act and do what the next kid does. That really hit home for me as I try and keep my rambunctious and ever exploring daughter quiet and low key....it's just not going to happen and I should try to limit exposing her to such situations that are only going to upset her and I.
I also found the "to be a baby" article very interesting. I especially like the part where the author talks about a baby being useless on purpose. At first I had no idea what that statement could mean, but it was easily explained and makes perfect sense now. For a baby to take in the world and just learn it can't have other responsibilities to worry about, and the more developed we become and our world becomes the more a baby will have to learn and take in. It is amazing how simple a concept like that is and can still be overlooked.
The information on attachment also intrigued me. I was told many times by family members to just leave my daughter be and not always hold her hand and help her through problems she encounters. They said I was spoiling her and babying her, but from what I read it just gives the child a sense of trust and allows them to explore more and learn more when they know you will be there whenever you need them. It seems to be true, because she goes and goes and goes, but as soon as she is scared or insecure I hear her holler for me and I am always there. It's still nice to be needed and also to know it is a good thing to show her I am there.
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